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Respect is one of the requirements of our life. Many of us get very high respect from others. While most of us do not. In today’s world only those who have power or money get respect. Ordinary citizens do not get it even from their spouse or friends. Are you getting respect? Quiz it now.

When you talk to your juniors in your office or at your work place, what signals do you get? Are they respecting you only because you are senior or because they feel that you know more? When you are with your seniors, do they ask you for your opinions? Do they listen to you carefully? Do they come to you when they have a critical job to be done in time? Are your leaves happily granted or you are asked to work more? Find out about how much respect you get as a professional. That is very important. If you realize that you are not getting respect, that may be because - the work place environment is not good or you are not performing very well. In case of first possibility, it is time for you to think of quitting job. In the case of second possibility you will have to take care of your shortcomings and improve your performance. Unless you get respect, you will not develop high self-esteem and you will be hurting your future.

To possess means to own. Do we own our partner? Do we own their time? Are they our slaves? If you ask anybody these questions, you will hear a definite no. But some of those who say no may be very possessive about their partner. The relationship breaks down after sometime hurting both the partners very badly.

Why are some people so possessive? Is that a complex of some kind? Are they afraid that their partner may be snatched away by somebody else? Or do they want their partner to spend all the time with them and no body else? Does suspicion come in to picture? Suppose you come across some emails of your partner. Would you look at them? Would you then ask your partner about the mails? What if your partner is late on a day? Are you happy to see them back or you are angry about their coming late? Do you demand the explanation for being late?

If your partner is speaking on phone in a low voice, does that make you feel suspicious? Do you suspect that they may be speaking with their past lover?
If someone sends an invitation to your partner for some party, do you insist that they should not go alone? Those who are possessive will try to control every minute of their partner’s life. They never allow the partner to use anything gifted to them by anybody else. They do not want the partner to talk about the past. They rather hate that. They treat themselves as the superior of their partner and try and control every activity. In the end the partner refuses to take this any more and the relationship breaks-up.

To love somebody is a great feeling. But the result of love should be pleasure for both the partners. If one partner feels like an animal in cage, that is not true love.

Dating is both an art as well as science. One who wants to date successfully must have some art of dating and be prepared to perfect the science. Quiz yourself if you are a good date?

Quiz your manners

The first stop will be manners. Perfect manners are a must for a perfect date. You may show your wild side afterwards. In the beginning of the dating your partner must notice your impeccable manners. The way you sit, walk, laugh, wear clothes and carry yourself are very important to make a positive impression.

Quiz your personality

How does your personality reflect on others? Ask few friends and find out their hones t opinion. What impact are you making? Do you come out as an intelligent person? Do you look like a smart person? Do you have the personality of a blunt person, or the personality of a weak person? Both are highly undesirable. Your personality must show you as an intelligent and caring person, who is well read, likes sports and has opinions of their own.

Quiz your conversation

How do you converse? Perfect the science of talking and listening. When somebody speaks, do they get the impression that you are paying full attention? When you talk do you sound like a knowledgeable person? Do you have the habit of interrupting others when they talk? How is your voice? Does that sound very loud? Do others have to strain themselves to hear you? You should talk in a volume that is just sufficient for the listener too understand what you are speaking.

Quiz( link to funquizcards.com) yourself on these basics of a winning personality and find out how you score. Wherever you find that correction is needed, correct and get ready for success dating.